Conquering Obstacles

“Fear is the main source of superstition, and one of the main sources of cruelty. To conquer fear is the beginning

Of wisdom.”

   You have faced the greatest challenges in your life and you have been knocked down time after time after time.  You are scared, tired and hurt to stand back up and fight again fearing that you will be knocked down once again. But this your defining moment, the moment where you will choose if the obstacle will overcome you or you will overcome the obstacle. As hard as it is or as hard as it gets, stand right back up and keep moving forward. With each failure, you are just a little bit closer to the greatest victory of all. Your obstacle will build your character and form your legacy. When you want something, you go get it and fight for it. Do not be afraid of failure because you cannot always win, but failing does not make you a failure. It simply means that you have to try a little bit harder, fight a little stronger, and stand a little higher.

  Do not live through life being a victim of fear. You and only you have created fear within yourself and you can destroy it. Learn from your failures, and strive for the best that you could be. Fight your way back into the light and represent possibility. Show the world that success is possible even though you have been knocked down so many times. Do not make excuses when pain is afflicting you, you cannot afford the excuses because everyday is a battle and every battle needs its warrior.

You are a warrior.

You are a fighter.

You are not a quitter.

  Separate yourself from others who do not believe in you and don’t venture to please them. Others do not know what your aspirations and your dreams are, and some people will try to stop you from fulfilling your dreams. Start investing time in yourself. Spend time with yourself and know what you want to become; understand what is best for you.  People will wait to watch you fall and fail to reach the top, but they do not know the power inside of you. They do not know what you’ve become and what you are capable of.  You’ve given those people everything, but you do not owe them anything. You are better than they will ever be; you are the one.

  Life is a beautiful adventure worth fighting for, even though it can be nasty and cruel at times but there will always be beauty in it. You have to believe that something different and wonderful will replace pain and suffering. You have to believe that happiness exists somewhere and is waiting for you to go grab it.  You have to believe that you can, you will, and you must.

  Success is not about luck; it is about staying determined, focused and decisive. It is also about making up your mind and telling yourself that you are not going to give up. Make a choice and decide on who is the person you want to be.  You might not be the brightest, fastest or strongest but you are who you are meant to be. And it is not over until you win.

You are unstoppable.  

You Are Who You Are

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter

don't mind.”

  Often times, people will tell you what to do or say in a certain situation.  And you will tend to follow what they say due to the amount of respect you have for them. Even so, you have to keep in mind that everybody is entitled to their opinions and emotions as long as they don’t offend or insult anyone. You have the right to feel any emotion that you want without hiding it, and do what makes you happy.

   In despite of that many people possibly you, might struggle with finding true happiness within yourself. But what you don’t know is that, the key to your happiness lies in between your own hands. The key to finding happiness is focusing on you, heeding all your emotions and feelings and never disregarding them. You need to trust your feelings and take the chances. How many times have you known what you’re feeling but got talked into doing the opposite? Ultimately, resulting in things not working out and you regretting your actions? If you cannot trust yourself enough to lead your own life, there is something wrong. Losing happiness for a period of time is inevitable, but restoring that happiness requires time and patience.  Time itself will not mend your heart or restore your happiness; it will just simply give you the time to get back on your feet and learn from the past.

  Find and accept the things that make you happy. Start to realize that what you’ve got around you is what will and does make you happy, not the result of getting something you don’t have. Do not look for perfection in something or someone but rather look for the imperfections that make them beautiful.  Striving for perfection will never make you happy.

  Find that one thing that empowers you and makes you feel stronger; whether it’s music, praying to God or even working out. Radiate the positivity and strength into the world around you and the people you love, even when you have every right to be negative about something. Toxic thoughts will shatter your happiness and build a concrete wall to separate you from happiness and joy. Do not let it define you, destroy you but rather strengthen you. Whatever the result of something you’ve done might be, make sure to do it with compassion and love because there is nothing better than to know that you’ve done something right. If you continue this cycle of thinking positive everyday, happiness will certainly find its way to you.

  When it’s difficult to find the positive side of things, just remember that you are alive and you are breathing. There is nothing more important in this world than to know that you are capable of living another day and able to do what you love. Be grateful for having another opportunity to do and make something remarkable.

"Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive." 
Howard Thurman

An Achievable Challenge

“Most powerful is he who has himself in

his own power.”

   In your life, you are bound to have moments where having power over your own mind will seem impossible. Moments like these your inner demons will attempt to control your thoughts, tangle your emotions and lead your actions. Inner demons do exist. Some more powerful than others, despite them being invisible it is unquestionable if they exist or not inside the most powerful human feature, the mind. The mind has unlimited potential and it will do what it desires once it captures its victims. Regardless of it’s power, you and only you can choose to follow the path of negativity or positivity. The reoccurring negative thoughts the human brain emits out will leave you with two choices; to surrender or to fight. What will you choose to do?

   Everybody has the potential to fight back but not everybody has the self-control. You have what it takes to fight your demons, but do you have the self-control? Every passing minute of your life you are controlling something, whether it’s the pencil you write with, the car you drive or the type of food you eat. These little things can never have a big effect in our lives because they are powerless but the mind isn’t. The more you give in and let your mind control you, the harder it will be for you to gain that position of power. Now power is not only authority, it is the ability to handle situations and open more doors for opportunities.  It is your life and nobody and nothing should control it but you.

   Once you sense a bad vibe that’s transmitting into your mind. Block it. Protect your mind from getting devoured by negative thoughts. It is essential to accept the fact that you have inner demons because it is an obstacle you will conquer in a matter of time. But most importantly, you need to be honest with yourself. What is your inner demon trying to make you do? What is it harming you with? If you are in a state of denial, you need to change that. One of the most important things is to know what your inner demon or demons are trying to tell you or make you do. Once you are aware of that, you will be capable of handling the voices stammering to you.  Being aware of them is incredibly different from listening to them and obeying them, giving in to them is not a choice because you are strong and extremely capable of resisting their orders.

I am strong.

I am important.

I am worthy of happiness.

  Pierce these words into your mind instead.  Remember your purpose in this world.  And be grateful for what you are and what you have. Happiness is a choice not a privilege; you can find happiness even in the darkest moments of your life when you start to perceive things differently. Start to ignore people who think they know more about you than you do.

   “At times the world can seem an unfriendly and sinister place, but believe us when we say that there is much more good in it than bad. All you have to do is look hard enough.” Lemony Snicket

Handling Grief

“Happiness is beneficial for the body, but it is grief that develops the powers of the mind.”
Marcel Proust

Grief is a powerful and sometimes a destructive emotion, which is a person’s natural reaction towards the loss of someone or something important. Many people tend to feel a sense of numbness, which blocks the subconscious mind from letting emotions and feelings take control, which ultimately results in immense pain. For a short period of time, it is emotionally satisfying to know that you are capable of handling the tragic loss of someone without getting affected. Although, the human mind would not be able to hide such pain for a long while, and when the pain is too much you will start to lose control of your actions.

   Every person handles grief differently, you might let it all out and cry for so long or you might not feel these emotions just yet. Either way, do not force yourself to cry or let the emotions out because it is the state that you are supposed to be in at that moment and when you are ready, your body and mind will allow these emotions and feelings to come to you.

   Allow yourself to feel any emotion it wants after the loss of someone. It is okay to feel any emotion so do not worry when you cannot feel a certain emotion you are expecting to feel. Keep in mind that the numbness you might feel is only trying to protect you from yourself and help you process everything in its time.  Have someone be there for; listen to you, support you and help you. Do not be afraid to show your vulnerability because even the strongest people have a breaking point.

   Within time you will be able to fully recover and start living your life once again. It is completely normal and okay to ask for help when needed because there is nothing more rewarding than to feel a sense of healing when all you’ve known for so long was pain.

   "Our sorrows and wounds are healed only when we touch them with compassion."  Buddha

         

   

Lonely But Not Alone

“The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved.”

   Sometimes the feeling of loneliness creeps in on you in your most fragile moments. When hope is nowhere to be found and emptiness is all that’s found. When everything goes wrong and you can’t even draw a smile on your face. At moments like these you’re not even aware of what’s inside of you or what has gotten into you. The emptiness within is made of despair and pain hidden beneath all the smiles.

   Despite all the pain, loneliness does not last forever. There are thousands of people who understand you. Who feel lonely just like you do. Who are craving affection and love. But the only thing that you truly need is comfort.  Not the comfort of others, but yourself. The pain is only eased when you come to the realization that comforting yourself is the sole answer. The support of others is incredibly helpful but nothing can change unless you make the decision of helping yourself first. It’s a long journey to be able to fully recover and heal on your own but within time it will become a part of you; when you won’t need anyone but yourself.   

   The feeling of healing is beautiful and being able to help someone go through what you’ve been through is even more beautiful. Start to look at the positive side from the loneliness that has gotten into you and help someone else get through their hard times. Share your story and show the world that loneliness is not forever.

   “When I get lonely these days, I think: So BE lonely, Liz. Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But never again use another person's body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings.” Elizabeth Gilbert